If I could choose between a day spent with my computer and a day spent facilitating a loud group of disagreeing Nigerians, I’d always choose the Nigerians. There are some people who get their kick out of solving complicated things alone in front of their computer, but I’m definitely not one of them…
Yesterday I talked with my colleague Noora Aberman, who has a similar personality and we both agreed about how much energy we get out of working with people. Yes, but… what do you do, if you just don’t get a room full of people to become one group, what if your attempt of drawing a network map together is continuously hijacked by one or two people who seem to just enjoy to disagree?
What do YOU do?
One thing that happens quite easily in this situation, is that the result is somewhere in the middle between the group perception and the perception of this one person – which means that the consensus (that the group agrees on for the sake of peace) is far away from the general perception and one loud voice is strongly over-represented.
How do you deal with your own feeling (of being annoyed and under pressure to produce results in limited time), the group mood (Desire for satisfying and peaceful interactions? Or enjoying a good fight?) and the individual needs of the loud and the quiet participants constructively?